Going through a divorce is usually a very stressful and emotional time for most people. Not only is it the end of a relationship, but there are a ton of unknowns regarding the future and how things will actually go in the divorce proceeding itself. Not knowing if it will go smoothly or be a long and drawn-out battle is a terrible feeling. But there are things you can do to help reduce the unknowns and come to an agreement that you know you can live with. Our divorce attorneys at Lake of the Ozarks have a few tips to help you through your divorce process in a way that can help it go more quickly and peacefully. In so many ways it is about mindset. If you are trying to reduce the stress, expense, and conflict while going through your divorce proceedings, keep reading this blog for three tips from Gibbons Law Firm.
1) Be Proactive
When you leave it up to the Court to decide the outcome of your divorce, it will look at multiple factors to decide how things should be handled and divided. That could include things such as your income, how each of you handled your finances while you were married, each spouse’s earning potential, and more. That might result in a more drawn-out and expensive process for you. It is usually best when a couple can agree on how things will be split rather than let the court get involved. That means the more of a mindset you have to look for common ground or mutually agreeable conditions, the more likely it will be that you can arrive at a consensus between you and your estranged spouse and save yourself the time and cost of the court having to decide for you.
2) Focus On the End Results
It can be very hard not to think about all the emotional reasons you are getting divorced and aspects that you think are unfair and hurtful. But none of that helps when it comes to creating a divorce agreement that you can live with. If you are able to approach divorce negotiations with more of a business mindset, and a focus on the end outcome and not past wrongs, you may increase your chances for achieving that outcome. Do your best to be professional and fair. Don’t look at the process as a way of deciding who is right and wrong but a path to the future you are ready to start.
3) Set a Positive Tone with Communication
Clear and purposeful communication makes all the difference in the world when it comes to your divorce proceeding. Again, this is not about why you’re getting divorced, but how you and your spouse can move forward in the most positive way. If you are able to visualize a feasible and fair path forward, and not be focused on your grievances, it is likely to go more peacefully. Sometimes the energy between a couple can make clear and purposeful communication impossible. If that’s the case, you want to communicate clearly with your attorney with that same mindset, and let your attorney take care of negotiations with your spouse and his or her attorney. Communicate your position clearly and avoid dragging out the process by rehashing the same issue over and over. Stay focused on your end goal and let your attorney structure the settlement with those purposes in mind.
Although none of this is easy, as divorce attorneys in mid-Missouri, we know from experience that the more you can decide things between yourselves, the smoother and more peaceful your divorce will be, and less expensive. Even in high-stakes divorces, our Lake Ozark law firm has seen couples work out agreements between themselves, but it could take more time if the situation is complicated. At our law office in Lake Ozark, we know that going through a divorce is difficult, and you may have a lot of questions. We do offer free initial consultations and would be happy to sit down with you and talk with you about what your rights are and how to go about achieving what you want in your divorce agreement. Give us a call at (573) 348-2211 to schedule your appointment. For more information and helpful hints regarding legal topics and seeking legal advice at Lake of the Ozarks, be sure to follow us on our social media channels using the links below.
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