At Gibbons Law Firm we know that going through a divorce is a trying time full of emotions. Not knowing how things are going to go – whether things will go relatively smoothly or turn into a long and expensive battle – certainly adds to the stress. As divorce attorneys at the Lake of the Ozarks, we have learned a few things that can go a long way towards helping you get through your divorce more quickly and with less conflict. If you are interested in knowing how to make the divorce process quicker and hopefully less painful, today’s blog is for you. If you are looking to file for divorce and need an experienced divorce attorney in Mid-Missouri to guide you, call us at 573-348-2211. We know how to help you through this tough time.
Try to Come to a Solution on Your Own
The more a couple is able to work out a solution on their own the better the outcome usually is for everyone. If you and your spouse are not able to come to an agreement, then it will be left up to the Court to decide. That will involve the Court looking at a number of different factors such as each person’s earning potential, current income, how each spouse handled their finances during the marriage, etc. That can obviously become more labor-intensive and lead to decisions that perhaps neither spouse actually agrees with. By far the best scenario is for you and your spouse to come to a fair and agreeable decision to you both without getting the Court involved.
Be Business-Minded
The entire discussion of how to end the marriage and divide assets fairly can trigger a lot of feelings, especially if you feel you have been put at a disadvantage because of how you were treated in the marriage. Make it your goal to be professional and fair. This is no time to let your emotions take over. Keep in mind your alternative is to let the Court determine the outcome and that can create a lot more variables and unknowns. If you can approach the negotiations more like a business meeting than a battle for justice, your chances for a successful outcome increase significantly.
Communicate with Purpose
Clear and purposeful communication can totally set the tone for the entire process during your divorce. This is not about all the reasons you are done with the relationship or all the ways you have been wronged. At this point, you and your spouse should be focused on HOW to move forward in the most positive way possible. Considering that you did not get married expecting for it not to work, remembering at one point this person is someone you loved, the more you can visualize and communicate a fair and reasonable path forward and avoid re-hashing grievances the more quickly and peacefully it will go.
If the energy between you and your spouse makes that impossible, communicate with your attorney with the same mindset and let your attorney work through the negotiation. Once you have stated your position, try to avoid going back and readdressing the same issue as that can drag out the entire process and potentially force negotiations back to square one. So stay focused on the future and let your attorney help you structure and negotiate for that end.
We hope you find this information helpful. We don’t wish divorce on any couple. But if you find yourself facing a divorce, we want to make it as quick and painless as possible. Unfortunately, some divorces may be more complicated if they involve children, businesses, or a lot of joint assets. It may take more time to work out the agreements in such cases. But at Gibbons Law Firm, we have learned that even in a high stakes divorce, being able to bring your own solutions and having a mindset to be fair, responsive and clear in your communication can be very helpful in making your divorce more timely even (or especially) in a high stakes divorce. For more information on how to get the process started and how to achieve the most positive results, our law office in Lake Ozark offers free consultations. Contact us at (573) 348-2211 to schedule your appointment. Follow our social media channels for more helpful hints and information regarding the law and seeking legal advice at the Lake of the Ozarks.
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